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Pete Quily Life Coach |
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Ever have one? Most of us have had one (in one degree or another) at one or more periods in our lives, even if it was for a short time. A toxic job is a job that is toxic to either your physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual health. It may only be toxic to one part of your being, or two or more parts, or every part. The worst kind of toxic job is the gradual one. The golden or velvet handcuffs. (no, nothing to do with S&M). The job where the money and or the benefits trap you. If you have a really extreme toxic job and notice at the beginning, you should be thankful. Thankful, because it's easier to be aware and to escape from then the gradual, stealth like toxic job that slowly creeps up on you and wears you down like chinese water torture, the death of a ten thousand tiny drops. This is the worst sort. You don't get a big dose of poison all at once, you get it in gradual doses, it accumulates in you and gradually wears you down, and it's easy not to notice until it's too late. The dangers of this is that by the time you notice you may already been poisoned, depleted, drained of energy. This makes it difficult to escape, because you may use up all your energy just existing, getting through the day. You may not have enough energy or resources (in every sense of the the word) to escape from it and you feel trapped and that makes it worse. It's a downward, escalating spiral of despair.You know you have to escape, but you feel you can't. You become more negative, there's less joy in your life, you may become despondent, cynical or depressed. But you can escape. Or your can detoxify your job (and your perspective on your job), life is too short to work in a toxic job. Too many people in this world are not fulfilled by their jobs. They may not be in extremely toxic jobs, where they feel they have to get out immediately, but they're unfulfilled. They don't believe they can have a job that they love, that is truly satisfying to all level of their being. Are you willing to accept that you deserve more? I'm no longer in my old toxic job, I'm extremely grateful for that. My life has totally changed for the better. I enjoy life much more; I'm far more alive. I found my life purpose and have found a career in line with that life purpose that I love, that energizes me, allows me to help other people, and that I'm good at. Some people are concerned about leaving a job because of fears of making less money doing a job that they love. But, who cares if you're making a lot of money if you're miserable? All the money and material toys in the world won't be enough to distract you from the emptyness of the hole inside you. How to escape from your toxic job? Realize you're in one, and realize the costs of not acting to get out. Get a fresh perspective. One way to do this is to hire a coach. We don't have to do every thing in our lives by ourselves. There is this myth that if you ask someone for help that you are somehow weak. This is not true. People who think this way live in fear, fear that they can't show any vulnerability. They don't act this way out of strength; in fact this attitude show's weakness. A strong man is not afraid to ask for help because he doesn't live his life in continual fear of having other people judging him. Until you become fully enlightened, you can usually benefit from another person's perspective, they may be able to see an aspect of your particular situation that you may not have thought of. Two pairs of eyes are often better than one. This myth is probably more prevalent with men than with women. (Might explain our earlier death rates:) The worst thing about a toxic job is that you lose perspective. A coach can work with you to help co-create alternate perspectives and strategies to either detoxify your job (and your perspective on your job), or to escape the toxic job, and survive and thrive whatever you choose to do. |
Brain, Heart and Soul food. In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing. Theodore Roosevelt Find your passion and make it your profession ... and you'll never work again. Janice Rockett There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love; there’s only a scarcity of resolve to make it happen. Wayne Dyer You may be disappointed if you fail, but you will be doomed if you don’t try. Beverly Sills It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it. Lena Horne Unfortunate events, though potentially a source of anger and despair, have equal potential to be a source of spiritual growth. Whether or not this is the outcome depends on our response. The Dalai Lama Some think it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go. Sylvia Robinson |
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